Can’t Hear A “NO”

Have we ever wondered that what a great impact of the word ‘No’ lies in our lives? We humans give a lot of various reactions to this word ‘No’ , not all of us can accept refusal and this is what we need to learn to accept refusal and react in a proper way. But all of us can’t do that, that’s why we have good and bad people in this world

Whenever we hear this word “NO” for something which we really want to do a mixed feeling of anger, frustration and disappointment is seen within us, even if a person has a lot of patience. We get even more anxious to do that thing than before. This word hurts our ego badly, but the nature of a person helps him to overcome from this feeling. Many a times we react in such a manner that we make sure that we don’t hear any refusal.

Simple example for this would be like how a baby when hungry cries and cries till he is not feed, he can’t take ‘No’ as an answer that’s why he keeps on crying. He uses his cry as weapon so that he can get food. This is the same phenomenon which our grown-ups follow, but we use mind games, throw tantrums get into physical fights to hear a yes for what we want.

This is a major problem what we don’t understand is that we can’t get a yes as an answer every time. There has to be a ‘No’ said sometimes to set a limit and people must try to understand it.

 There are many instances where people don’t want to hear ‘No’ like parents don’t want to hear that children are not studying, children want their parents not to say ‘No’ for anything they want, an employee wants that his report should not be rejected by his boss, a candidate can’t take No for a job and a person in love can’t hear his first crush saying ‘No’ and many more examples of these are surrounded around us we just need to look at it.

The word No brings out certain limits with it, which strangely we all don’t like, we all want to be free but we must understand that we need to set limits otherwise we can’t survive in this world and most important try to know it why ‘No’ is required. Since there are people of various kinds of nature in this world we must take care of how to say ‘No’, it should be said at the right time and in right manner. If we knew how to do this, we wouldn’t have terrorist in the world, they exists because at some point of time they have heard ‘No’ and now they want the country to listen to them it’s a negative reaction to the word ‘No’.  This negative reaction can be seen everywhere like in business rivals, in sports, dance, politics etc. we must try to control this negative reaction and see to it that it doesn’t hurt others. We live in a competitive world where need to fight, we need to hear ‘No’ and try to make it right. How to be successful depends on your reactions to refusal.  So next time when you say ‘No’ remember you are making a difference in your life.

Career Maniac

Sometimes I keep on thinking that what is right for me the thing  which I am doing right now or not whether am fit to do something in life and with all this confusion in life I just stopped listening to my thoughts and blocked myself as I was not getting any answers for it and  even didn’t write anything for the blog even though this is the thing I love the most and I started thinking that I am a LOSER,a big LOSER.

We can’t deny the fact that we live in a world where the “All you should think should be about career” is typical with people just can’t understand why?? Since the day you are born mom and dad get a hope that you will make them proud be something in life and the thing is as you grow up its already decided by them what are you going to become the most favourite options are engineering and doctors as if all the world  survives only on them. What about other occupation why not give a try and we as students try to get into this race of studying like dogs and cats without realising do we want to do it or not or what exactly we want to do ??

    But this life with lightning speed doesn’t give many people the chance to do it or the opportunity is denied. Some get the chance to explore, but some don’t so they never can get to their dreams and for those who want to change the world they don’t like to do it the wrong way and others just want to make it through just get a degree and obviously they have everything thing pre-planned like the rich-spoiled brats, but still there are some who are dedicated and work hard but are not appreciated and get hurt and all that leads to a suicide. Now-a-days it has become a fashion to suicide just for not reasonable reasons but still we cannot deny the fact that it is all because of the pressure around us from everywhere but that doesn’t mean you end your life.

But here a question arises how do you know you are on right track and doing the right thing at right time??

 Even I was in this chaos of thoughts of being a professional what should I do I have a passion for writing but I have mind block because of just thinking of all about this Career thing?
       But just then one of my friends told me why the hell you want a perfect thought or a subject just write or a perfect answer because you don’t get prefect answers without trying..and told me to write about what happens today these words just made my mind click that instead of searching a topic I can write what I am feeling now that will let my feelings and thoughts out and I will understand myself much better and once I understand my abilities I would exactly know that what is the exact right career for me.
       From this I understood that in this career maniac world if you want to be in the race then there’s a way out that you must speak your thoughts out speak to yourself even though it sounds crazy try it and you will exactly know much more about yourself then you know right now trust me, that works.

So friends if you can’t decide what you want to do today don’t panic follow your heart talk to yourself explore your abilities and you will get your answers  and the most important be ready to hard work to achieve your dreams never give up who knows what’s in your destiny ahead if you just give a try......