Can’t Hear A “NO”

Have we ever wondered that what a great impact of the word ‘No’ lies in our lives? We humans give a lot of various reactions to this word ‘No’ , not all of us can accept refusal and this is what we need to learn to accept refusal and react in a proper way. But all of us can’t do that, that’s why we have good and bad people in this world

Whenever we hear this word “NO” for something which we really want to do a mixed feeling of anger, frustration and disappointment is seen within us, even if a person has a lot of patience. We get even more anxious to do that thing than before. This word hurts our ego badly, but the nature of a person helps him to overcome from this feeling. Many a times we react in such a manner that we make sure that we don’t hear any refusal.

Simple example for this would be like how a baby when hungry cries and cries till he is not feed, he can’t take ‘No’ as an answer that’s why he keeps on crying. He uses his cry as weapon so that he can get food. This is the same phenomenon which our grown-ups follow, but we use mind games, throw tantrums get into physical fights to hear a yes for what we want.

This is a major problem what we don’t understand is that we can’t get a yes as an answer every time. There has to be a ‘No’ said sometimes to set a limit and people must try to understand it.

 There are many instances where people don’t want to hear ‘No’ like parents don’t want to hear that children are not studying, children want their parents not to say ‘No’ for anything they want, an employee wants that his report should not be rejected by his boss, a candidate can’t take No for a job and a person in love can’t hear his first crush saying ‘No’ and many more examples of these are surrounded around us we just need to look at it.

The word No brings out certain limits with it, which strangely we all don’t like, we all want to be free but we must understand that we need to set limits otherwise we can’t survive in this world and most important try to know it why ‘No’ is required. Since there are people of various kinds of nature in this world we must take care of how to say ‘No’, it should be said at the right time and in right manner. If we knew how to do this, we wouldn’t have terrorist in the world, they exists because at some point of time they have heard ‘No’ and now they want the country to listen to them it’s a negative reaction to the word ‘No’.  This negative reaction can be seen everywhere like in business rivals, in sports, dance, politics etc. we must try to control this negative reaction and see to it that it doesn’t hurt others. We live in a competitive world where need to fight, we need to hear ‘No’ and try to make it right. How to be successful depends on your reactions to refusal.  So next time when you say ‘No’ remember you are making a difference in your life.